I Love You + PDAs
February 28, 2008“I’ll see you after class.”
“No, I have to drop this off for a teacher. I won’t see you until after school.”
“Oh. I can’t wait.”
“See you later.”
“I LOVE YOU.”
Imagine this exchange of words between a tall boy and a blonde little girl locked in an embrace. UGH.
This bothers me so much. Disgusting displays of affection in public. PDAs are definietly a huge pet peeve of mine. Okay, holding hands is inoffensive on occassion (as long as you two are not locked together 24/7) and a really cute couple can pull off a goodbye peck or soemthing, but high school relationships have gotten so public it is ridiculous. I hate walking through the halls and seeing the same two people walking hand-in-hand everywhere together, never seeing them separated, gazing into each other’s eyes. When they’re torn apart for class they hug for a really long time, might even give each other a long painful kiss and head off for the hour without their sweetie. It makes me sick. It’s 75 freaking minutes. Let me give you a little perspective. My boyfriend lives 1 1/2 hours away. I get to seem him every other weekend if I am lucky. I’m thinking these couples who can hardly last 2 hours are maybe a little dependent.
And PDAs and clingy-ness is just the tip of the iceburg. I hate that they said “I love you” to each other. They’re grade 9 or 10s… how can they be in love? To me the words “I love you” carry a LOT of meaning and sentiment and should be used wisely when in the context of a significant other. I admit to saying “I love you” to friends and family, but when it comes to my boyfriend I’ve rarely said it, if ever. That doesn’t mean I don’t care about him, I do immensely, but I’m aware of the heavy meaning of those words and I don’t just want to go tossing those around whenever. It’s for special moments and special feelings.
Anyways, that’s my little rant about PDAs & “I love you”s. Obviously it’s different with different people… I hate PDA’s… in fact I aviod holding my bf’s hand in public (I know I sound like a cold, horrible and feelingless person, but to me, especially since we haven’t been dating a LONG time, that is all personal and private stuff) yet some of my friends love it and say that they enjoy pdas because it shows they’re not embarrassed or ashamed to be with that person. Different opinions I guess. How do you and your sweetie act publically?
I’m kind of with you on the idea of PDA’s. It’s really not necessary to give your significant other a huge kiss which makes others feel awkward. Okay, so there are times and places where this kind of PDA could be used like if you’re going away for a long time…then I can understand. But what goes on in the halls here sometimes is just not necessary.
However I agree and disagree with what you say about saying “I love you.” Okay so it’s over used, and even given away a lot. I agree with that, but people who are younger could be in love. My boyfriend and I said we loved each other only after a few months of dating (and I was in grade 9) and now it’s going to be 3 years in May. Can I say that the love I had back then is as strong as it is now? No, because you can’t love someone the same because you grow with them as your relationship becomes older. So I can understand where you’re going with the “They’re grade 9 or 10s… how can they be in love? ” comment, but I don’t really think that we can decide for that they don’t know what they’re thinking.
Okay so the couple breaks up almost daily but still says I love you. THEN I think we can judge that they don’t love each other. Other than times like this.. I don’t really agree that it’s our place to judge. (However, I do judge sometimes too even if I try not too)
Hopefully you can follow what I said, and realize I don’t mean to be hypocritical??!
Whoops reread part of that comment.
SO INSERT THIS INTO MY COMMENT WHERE IT STARTS WHEN I QUOTE “…So I can udnerstand where you’re going with the “they’re grade 9 or 10s… how can they be in love?” comment, but I don’t really think that we can decide that they don’t know what love is because to all their life experiences, the love they’re talking about IS real love. (Unless they’re just saying it because they feel pressured)
Sorry
Ok… I think too much PDA is NASTY!! No one should be making out in the halls of our school or anywhere that is public…
But I honestly think that if I had a gf at our school I would hold her hand, kiss her when we separated and if I did love her I’de say it.
I would NOT be one of those couples that just HAS TO meet between EVERY class but…I donno
I like holding hands and kissing good bye.
And I was in love in grade 9/10 with Teela and I don think ppl should say it if they don mean it but I said it cuz I did…
Before this blog I didn’t even know what PDA was. Infact I had to ask Karri what one was (I live a very sheltered life). Anyway the whole PDA thing is very annoying. But it’s not as annoying as the couples you constantly see that are always together, especially the younger ones. I don’t know why it’s more annoying when they are younger probably because I think that they may be too immature at that age. I have even seen guys’ girlfriends waiting outside the bathrooms for their boyfriends to go pee. Hahahaha
oh man, it’s so true. There were these two people making out outside right before one of them had to go on their bus to go home. It’s only ONE night! jeez, you’d think they could go without making out for a night, but apparently not. I mean, it is cute in movies, but in the real world, not so much.
“I mean, it is cute in movies, but in the real world, not so much.” haha so true
I think PDA’s are pretty hilariously terrible. There was this couple who used to date and they used to meet right beside my window on the bus everyday to publicly display their affection. And I tried to take a picture to make fun of them later. But then they broke up. Anyways they were all touchy and hilarious… but yeah I don’t think people should grope each other in public or anything to that effect but I disagree with you about the hand holding I think that’s cute and its a subtle way to show your affection. I hold hands with all my friends
. It’s nice.
After such public shows of affection how does one deal with the ineveitable break-up? We all look back at things we did when we were younger and shake our heads-it’s part of growing up. I don’t have any real problem with it, as long as each person understands it in the same way-which is not usually the case in high school. I’m going to generalize here, but girls and guys view saying ‘I love you’ differently-and that’s where the problems develop. We don’t progress in relationships at the same speed-almost always one person feels more than the other person-we’re not robots after all. It is only after time, and many different experiences together, that you can probably assume saying the words and the feelings associated with them are somewhat equal. Until then, they are often used to either mask insecurities, or to hold power over the other, etc. Not a good situation.
All that said, it’s better to see PDAs than people fighting. ‘Make love not war’.
JoeCool
THANK YOU! I am glad I am not the only one who feels that these types of displays is ridiculus. It is a high school relationship and every time they leave each other for any amount of time it is like one of them is going off to war. Affection is one thing but drueling and slobbering all over them is just completely unecessary. You are walking down the hall way and some days is is like the Playboy network or something. If they insist upon gubering all over each other then they should do it where everyone else doesn’t have to watch.